California…March 4, 2011
Tonight all I want to do is say goodbye to my brave and gallant nephew, Cpl. Jordan Stanton, who this very day courageously gave his life for our country while serving thousands of miles from home in a far away place. You might think that given the many words I've scribbled on this blog and in the stories that I write that I could find the right ones to express the depth of my sadness. You would be wrong, I cannot. Frankly I don't believe those words have even been dreamed of yet.
Some say life oscillates; that happy and sad come in sets, just like waves. Well, if that's true then I'm riding a sadness tsunami. Everyone grieves for something or someone sooner or later, it's a human axiom. When a heart breaks we either circle the wagons of compassion or flee to protect our own. That is also a human axiom. There is no middle of the road where grief is concerned, we either love enough to care and care enough to comfort, and comfort enough to heal or we don't. True love stays the course, that's a spiritual axiom, like the scripture promises, love never fails.
I miss you Jordan, and can't stop asking why, as if there could ever be an answer that would make sense. I am proud of the depth of your character and hope that I will be able to learn from the examples you offered in life, that of true spirit, true commitment, and true courage, these examples defined your life. You set the bar high for all of us. I hope we can measure up and make you proud as well.
I realize that you never met her, but when you get to Heaven look up your little cousin KaSandra, I know that she'll happily show you the ropes up there. You'll love her Jordan; she's the little sister that your Mom always wanted for you and your brothers. She'll crack you up with her knock-knock jokes and you'll fall in love with her smile, her giggle, even her whine. Do me a favor and look after her for me, and if you don't mind, check in on your Uncle Nick from time to time and make sure that I'm towing the line and walking the straight and narrow. I'm sort of on a personal mission of my own right now, and I'm sure KaSandra could use some help keeping me focused and encouraged.
I love you Jordan, please tell KK that I love her too and give her a big hug for me. Thank you for your service, for your sacrifice, for your infectious smile, and most of all for your love. You're in all of our hearts, and it's in there where you will live forever. God bless you nephew, now and through eternity…